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Choosing Divorce, Divorce Litigation, and Divorce Mediation – Taking Stock of Your Options, Part 2
This post is the second in a multi-part series on choosing divorce, divorce litigation, and divorce mediation. If you haven’t already read part 1, I recommend you do before continuing.
Choosing Divorce (continued)
So, how can you know if you’re ready for divorce? And, more importantly, if you’re prepared to handle the process as smoothly as possible? Let’s take a look at some questions to help people determine if they’re ready for divorce:
Is the divorce an emotional decision or a rational one?
When couples face great difficulties in their relationship, sometimes divorce can seem like the only way out from under the stress and emotional burden they’re facing. However, in some cases, the couple will be better off working to improve their relationship rather than to end it. It is also not uncommon for people to threaten divorce during the heat of an argument, or to use it as a scare tactic to gain leverage over their partner or to show them the seriousness of the situation. If your divorce is a knee-jerk, emotional reaction to your situation, it’s likely going to be a rough process. Likewise, some people begin divorce proceedings in order to punish their partner, whether for infidelity or some other offense. If your decision to divorce is based on hurting the other person rather than a desire to better your own circumstances (and likely your partner’s as well) then it’s likely that you’re not ready for divorce.
Are you ready for the consequences of divorce?
Divorce comes with many consequences, especially if there are children in the picture. When the majority of people divorce, they face financial hardship, drastic lifestyle changes, parenting issues and negative effects on their children, insecurity, uncertainty, and fear. The severity of these consequences obviously varies quite a bit from case to case, but the same problems are typically present. If the relationship isn’t so far gone that staying married sounds worse than the alternative, you may not be ready for divorce.
Check back soon for Choosing Divorce, Divorce Litigation, and Divorce Mediation – Taking Stock of Your Options, Part 3. In the meantime, check out our page on divorce.
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